by Kimberly Blaker
Freelance Women’s Lifestyle Writer
Originally appeared in the national
Complete Woman Magazine, Aug/Sept 2001
Updated version B Magazine PA, Spring 2016
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Best Romantic Bedroom Ideas
Has your bedroom lost its touch? Does it seem like the same dull routine every time you head to what was once a magical lair? After being together for a while, that once yearned for familiarity turns into a longing for the unexpected. So why not give your room a lift?
As the ancient Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui reveals, your surroundings play a large role in the quality of your love life. While some of this philosophy may be rooted in superstition, there’s no question environment plays a crucial role in our moods and desires.
Incorporate pleasures in your bedroom for all your senses to savor, from romantic sounds, sensual sights, and exquisite touchables, to savory tastes and aromatic fragrances. Try some of these romantic bedroom ideas and transform your humdrum room into a lover’s lane.
Aroma is an essential ingredient in creating the right mood. Choose from many fragrant scents that come in a variety of forms, from incense, sprays, and candles to cologne and scented body lotions. Also, try some of these aromatic romantic bedroom ideas.
For lasting fragrance, lightly spray your favorite cologne on the sheets for a fresh, inviting scent.
Open the windows and let the fresh breeze whisper through to enhance your room.
Set out a box of gourmet chocolates. The aroma of chocolate alone is a great aphrodisiac.
Fresh cut flowers are an inviting addition. Try different types to determine which have lingering scents.
Too much fragrance is bothersome to some men. Strive for a pleasant aroma that isn’t overpowering. If your partner is sensitive or allergic to fragrance, forego it altogether.
An Irresistible Vision
Men are most stimulated visually. So they want to see the woman they’re with. Play this up, and you’re bound to hold his
Everyone looks their personal best in particular colors—and those colors may not necessarily be red or black. Choose colors that draw out your beauty. To determine which colors compliment you, there are several books available to assist in finding your best colors and shades. Drape different colors over your shoulders to determine how they affect your appearance. You’ll likely find some colors make you look drab, while others bring out your true radiance.
Choose eye-pleasing fabrics. Flannel is not so likely to be a hit, while men find clingy or shiny fabrics irresistible.
Don’t forget the lingerie. Many men love it. Keep in mind though, all men have different tastes. Ask your guy what styles or articles of clothing do it for him. He’s sure to have to romantic bedroom ideas of his own.
It’s All in the Music
Music is also important to set the mood. It helps couples relax, perfect after a hard day at work or for breaking the silence. Avoid loud rock, country, or hip-hop music, which can be a real distraction (unless, of course, they have the opposite effect on your mate). Try some of these favorite albums, for setting the mood:
Jon Secada, Popular, vocal
John Legend –Love In The FutureR&B, popular, soul
Kenny G—Breathless, jazz, instrumental
Luther Vandross –One Night With You The Best Of Love, Volume 2, popular, vocal
Celine Dion – The Best of Celine Dion , popular, vocal
A Romantic Tribute to the Titanic—popular/classical, vocal/instrumental
Adele—21, popular, vocal
Chris Botti—Slowing Down The World, jazz, vocal/instrumental
Mark Whitfield—Forever Love, jazz, instrumental
Raphael/IntimacyIntimacy: Music for Love, contemporary/new age, piano
Andrea Bocceli—Love In Portofino [CD/DVD Combo], classical, opera, popular
The Romantics—The Romantics A Windham Hill Sampler, new age, instrumental
Michael Buble—Crazy Love (Amazon Exclusive Version), popular, vocal
Paul McCartney—Working Classical, popular/classical, vocal/instrumental
Don’t be caught without these necessities:
A nightstand or small chest next to the bed to eliminate unnecessary fumbling.
A firm, comfortable mattress, good box springs, and a solid bed frame for comfort and quietness.
Soft quality sheets, a lightweight comforter, and fluffy pillows for relaxing and lingering.
An occasional change in furniture arrangement to keep the environment feeling new.
A neatly made bed with fresh sheets.
Instant Mood Killers
Avoid these common bedroom mistakes.
A television in your bedroom is a definite no-no. This passive individual activity is sure to destroy the allure of your bedroom as a place for intimacy.
Both bright lights and no lights can detract from the moment. Your partner definitely wants to see you, yet doesn’t want to be under a spot light. Use a small bedside lamp with a low watt bulb for soft lighting. Candles also make a romantic substitute.
Keep exercise equipment any place but in your bedroom. The thought of a sweaty gym isn’t exactly an aphrodisiac.
Decorate in ways that appeal to both of you. An atmosphere that’s either too masculine or too feminine can destroy your’s or your partner’s mood.
Keep clutter hidden. A messy room is a reminder of work that needs to be done.
Just for Fun
An occasional change of scenery creates interest. So, try these fun romantic bedroom ideas for a change of pace.
Use a purple, blue, or red light bulb for a new effect.
Add vibrantly colored satin sheets as an eye catcher.
String white holiday lights around your bedroom window.
Add erotic statues, paintings, or strategically placed books for added intrigue.
Set out a bowl of scrumptious fruits such as strawberries, cut melons, and grapes next to a bottle of chilled wine.
Toss a few fresh rose petals on the bed. They’ll add fragrance and are perfect for tickling, too.
Install a mirrored wall or large mirror for a different view.
Put a furry or soft throw rug or a comfortable armchair in your room for added coziness.
What about the guys’ romantic bedroom ideas?
Men were asked, “What turns you on in the bedroom and what turns you off?”
“I really like it if there’s some nice music like Marvin Gaye or Chet Baker. I like when the lights are turned down or when there is candlelight because I like to see my partner. I also like my wife to wear something nice like lingerie. I don’t like it when the cat gets in the way and wanders up on the bed. And flannel sheets are kind of – not. However, I don’t like things too overdone, either.” –Bryan Dean, 24
“What turns me on in the bedroom is the person. The type of lighting and music really depends on the person I’m with and the mood. I think it’s important that you try various things, sometimes hot and sometimes soft. For décor, I would like it kind of sporty. I would not be amused with pink or little girl’s types of things, like flowers.” —Jens Baker, 32
“Mood lighting is nice, such as candles or soft lights. I like kind of a soft jazz, rhythm & blues, or even reggae music in the background. I prefer silk sheets, and waterbeds are great. Rock & roll or rap music would probably be a turnoff. If it is too dark, I would be unresponsive because I like to see the sights. Also, if the bedroom is too messy, it makes you feel like you have to clean it up. Quilts are a big turn off, as well.” –Ray Cogan, 24
“I think it’s important that it’s not too dark. I need to see what’s happening. Also a comfy bed with not too many pillows, but enough to be able to relax is important. Bright colors are cool, yet should be slightly masculine. I’m not a fan of lacy things. Soft is okay but not too pretty, such as floral prints.” —Michael Houlihan, 31
Kimberly Blaker writes articles and content for lifestyle publications and websites.