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by Kimberly Blaker
Freelance Parenting Writer
Our Kids, September 2017

 

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How to Teach Tolerance to Kids: Accepting and Celebrating Diversity

 

According to the latest FBI data, there were 5,818 single-bias hate crimes reported for the year 2015 alone. Though depending on how hate crimes are defined, there’s an average of 259,700 hate crime victimizations each year according to the Bureau of Justice. The difference in these statistics stems in part from the Bureau of Justice’s inclusion of rape and violence against women and the fact most hate crimes go unreported.

Of particular concern to parents, according to various agencies, young men under 26 are the perpetrators of a significant percentage of these violent acts. Religious-based biases, as well as ethnic and racial biases, are learned during early childhood, explains the Leadership Conference Education Fund. Young children exposed to these prejudices hold numerous stereotypes by the time they reach the age of twelve.

In a society as diverse as the United States, it’s troubling to see the prejudices that exist and the hate groups that plague our country. The events that unfolded on August 12th, 2017, in Charlottesville, Virginia, reveal the true danger when misconceptions are held toward those who are different. This is especially true when anyone in a role of public leadership speaks in a manner deemed derogatory toward other races or religions. Such speech serves only to embolden those who wish harm on others.

As parents, educators, and leaders, we must strive to change these patterns so our kids grow into kind and accepting adults.

 

How to teach tolerance to kids begins at home

There are many ways to teach children tolerance. But we must first recognize our own attitudes and actions toward those who are different plays a crucial role. Children are observant and catch even the subtlest stereotyping and prejudicial behaviors. According to experts, attitudes held by those in the home will have the strongest impact on the way children perceive people who are different.

There are many ways you can encourage your child to accept diversity. To begin, read books with your child on world religions, different nationalities, the traditions of different races and cultures, diversity, and tolerance.

Have open discussions and encourage questions. Explain the importance of freedom of religion and civil rights for your own family and why it’s also important for others.

How to teach tolerance to kids outside the home

Talk to your child’s school, as recommended by Tolerance.org, to make sure textbooks and curricula are up to date to reflect equity and multiculturalism. Ask teachers and staff if and how they approach the task of teaching tolerance in the classroom. If the school or How to teach tolerance to kidsclassroom doesn’t already include tolerance education in its program, try to help activate it. Ask if you can share ideas with staff. Also, learn other ways you can assist the school in promoting positive attitudes toward diversity.

Help your child develop acceptance by sharing the beliefs of relatives and friends who hold different views from your own. It often comes as a surprise, even to adults, to learn some family members hold very different religious beliefs. Ask those of other views to share with your child what they believe and why. Make sure these adults understand your purpose so they won’t attempt to proselytize your child or criticize your own beliefs. Rather, ask them to share their beliefs with neutrality. By providing your child the opportunity to discover good, well-respected family members and friends hold a wide range of beliefs, your child will be well on his way toward acceptance of others.

 

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Also, provide your child opportunities to develop friendships with children of other races, religions, or cultures. This can be challenging in some communities where there is little diversity. Look for some extracurricular activities in a neighboring community that would provide your child exposure to diversity.

How to teach tolerance to kids by fighting intolerance

Another recommendation by Tolerance.org is to encourage your child to actively fight stereotypes and intolerance. Help your child to form a club, study circle, or sponsor a walkathon for diversity. Your child will have the opportunity to meet kids of other beliefs while at the same time learning the importance of social responsibility.

Also confront biased behavior expressed by family and friends, especially if your child witnesses it. For example, if grandma complains her “Black neighbors don’t take care of their lawn,” don’t brush the comment aside. Otherwise, both grandmother and your child will perceive your silence as acceptance of the stereotype or prejudicial remark. By using the term ‘black’ in the sentence, rather than just stating ‘the neighbors’, it indicates bias and contributes to teaching children to be prejudiced.

Confronting family and friends isn’t easy. But it can be done in a tactful manner. Don’t criticize. Just nonchalantly but clearly acknowledge grandmother’s frustrations with the unkempt yard. Then point out it has nothing to do with being black. By doing so, your child will learn such biased comments are unfair. It also teaches your child not to be apathetic toward intolerance.

Also, if your child attends church, Sunday school, or other religious functions, talk with the leaders and teachers to learn their attitudes and levels of tolerance. While many are accepting of other religious views, some religious leaders perpetuate intolerance by preaching against nonbelievers, those of other faiths, or people or groups that don’t adhere to their specific lifestyle guidelines. Other religious leaders may contribute to stereotyping in more subtle ways. Kids are very perceptive though and will recognize the biases all the same. If you do detect prejudiced attitudes, look for another church or denomination that’s accepting of diversity.

Finally, talk with your church about ways it can teach and promote tolerance among its youth. After all, the desire for peace on earth is common among many of the world’s religions.

 

 

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Kimberly Blaker writes on parenting and social issues.

 

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How to Teach Tolerance to Kids: Accepting and Celebrating Diversity
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How to Teach Tolerance to Kids: Accepting and Celebrating Diversity
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The events that unfolded in Charlottesville reveal the true danger of racism. We must strive to change these patterns so kids grow into accepting adults.
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